Clinical Psychologist Meg Jay is our girl. She brings some realness to the age old axiom “30 is the new 20” by encouraging young adults to embrace your twenties as a majorly important decade in your life. Don’t take those years for granted and most definitely do not throw them away as your “party years” or your “screw around years.”

Watch her Ted Talk above, it’s about 15 minutes but it’s totally worth the watch. If you’re interested in learning more about her theory, we Instagrammed her book The Defining Decade a few weeks ago so check it out.